Tales about the City

I raced through this book in about three evenings.¬† I have been a fan of Armistead Maupin for years – ever since I first discovered Tales of The City in the late 1980s and fell in love with the characters, as well as San Francisco (it’s been top of my must visit list ever since).¬† I’ve read every book he’s written, and so getting this when it published was a no-brainer.

He calls it a memoir, rather than an autobiography, and that’s exactly what it is.¬† A series of reminiscences from his life – pretty much in chronological order, but interspersed with updates as necessary.

While I knew that the early books in the TotC series were based on actual events, I hadn’t realised just how autobiographical they were.¬† It was fascinating to see where the inspiration for some of the characters came from, and how some of the (seemingly-far fetched) plots were based on real events and places.

I also hadn’t realised how involved Armistead was in the early days of the gay rights movement. He is very honest about his past and lifestyle, both before and after coming out.¬† He also mentions a fair few well known figures, including Harvey Milk and Rock Hudson, but it’s not name-dropping; they are integral in the story.¬† It’s a really interesting, personal document of a pivotal time for gay rights in America and also a love letter to San Francisco.

After reading some of his non-TotC fiction I had wondered if he didn’t like women very much as the majority of his straight female characters are ultimately not very likeable.¬† However this book answers that question; the love and respect he has for his mother, grandmother and sister (as well as other members of his “logical family”) shine through.

I loved the concept of a “logical family” as well as the terminology.¬† Your logical family are those people you chose to be with and feel a bond with, not necessarily those you are related to or share DNA with.¬† Those who are familiar with my blog will know that this resonates with me.

I recommend this book to anyone who enjoyed Tales of the City, or who is interested in recent cultural history.¬† It’s an easy read but will stick with you and also make you think about your own freedoms and prejudices.¬† Read it.¬† Then read Tales of the City.¬† I dare you not to love Mrs Madrigal. ¬†Better still, read TotC first so you don’t get spoilt for¬†the twists…

Month in review

January started with dating and ended with reading.  A vast improvement!  I picked three books, relatively randomly, but they all seemed to share some similar themes; aloneness, disconnection and mental health issues.

The first book I read was The Double Bind by Chris Bohjalian.¬† This isn’t a new book, (published in 2008) but was new to me.¬† I came across it when I was doing a bit of research around F Scott Fitzgerald’s The Great Gatsby.¬† ¬†In this book the main protagonist, Laurel, grew up near East and West Egg,¬† the areas where Gatsby and the Buchanans live in the novel.¬† The book is based on the premise that the events in The Great Gatsby¬†were true and explores what happened to Tom and Daisy (and their family) after Gatsby was killed.

Laurel is attacked while out cycling.  After this she becomes withdrawn and focuses on her photography and volunteering at a local shelter, where she meets a homeless man who she believes is the youngest child of Tom and Daisy Buchanan.  After he dies she becomes obsessed with uncovering the truth about his life.

I won’t say much more for fear of giving away the novel’s twist.¬† I guessed what this would be part way through, but didn’t work all of it out.¬† It was an interesting read, but probably not one that I will pick up again to reread.¬† It was the first of this author’s books I’d read and his style of writing didn’t quite gel for me.¬† However, if you like a thriller, or are interested in what may have happened post-Gatsby, then you might enjoy this.

The next novel was Lullaby by Leila Silmani.¬† She is a French author and the novel was a best seller in France.¬† It has now been translated into English and has had quite a lot of press coverage, mainly due to the subject matter.¬† ¬†The cover says¬† “The baby is dead.¬† It only took a few seconds.”¬† The story focuses on Myriam and her husband Paul who decide to get a nanny for their two children so Myriam can return to work as a lawyer.¬† They find Louise who seems perfect.¬† However as the reader you know that she will kill the children and it’s a matter of waiting and working out how and why this happened.

There is a lot of focus on gender and class and the story is fairly tightly plotted.¬† There is real sense of Parisian life and culture and how similar and different it is from ours. The end did seem quite rushed however, which was a shame.¬† The language was stilted in some places and I’m not sure if this was due to the translation or if this is how the original was written.¬† It was also unusual to read a book where none of the characters are particularly likeable.¬† I imagine it must be a difficult read though for parents who rely on a nanny for their children.

The last book was a debut novel from Gail Honeyman Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine.¬† This was my favourite of the three by a mile.¬† It’s about a thirty-something single woman who has clearly had a traumatic childhood and has a difficult relationship with her estranged mother.¬† She is a creature of habit and very literal in¬† her understanding of the world.¬† She keeps herself isolated from her colleagues, until a chance encounter changes that.¬† ¬†Eleanor’s observations are hilarious, and the book was a real page-turner.¬† It is horrific in parts but written beautifully with some well-drawn, believable characters. The denouement was quite surprising but left hope for a sequel.¬† I would really recommend this one to anyone.

In all three the main protagonists are women who are all slightly separate from the rest of society and struggle in different ways with accepting that.   They all have mental health issues to some degree and find it hard to connect with others, feeling a need to prove something to either themselves or other people.   While they may have had experiences I have not shared, or may not all have been particularly likeable, it was interesting to see the commonalities and also understand a different perspective on life from mine.

As always, books open doors to different lives and different viewpoints.¬† I’ve been back to Waterstones for more, so my dating tales are likely to be interspersed with book reviews.¬† You have been warned!

Aloe goodbye

So my Forever Living product trial is over, they’ve all been given back and my bathroom cupboard looks sadly empty. I’ve enjoyed the experience and am grateful to jenniferpow.com for giving me the opportunity to try them.¬† My top six are pictured, and I’ve placed an order already.

What this last week has confirmed to me is that the older I get, the more I prefer tailored products.¬† By that I mean products that are designed for one specific purpose rather than having a variety of uses. Creams and lotions that are designed for face and body don’t give enough nourishment to my face now I’m no longer in my twenties (or thirties, come to that!) and my hot picks reflect that.

The multi-use products are great value though, and would be good as face and body moisturisers for teens upwards of any gender.¬† The lack of strong fragrance definitely makes them suitable for the men I know who run a mile from anything “girly”.¬† And although I’m not a fan of the packaging, I think it probably helps make a lot of the products non gender specific.

I’d definitely give some of the ranges as gifts to friends (particularly the Relaxation products) and would recommend them to pretty much anyone.¬† I have a couple of weddings coming up later this year so may well have to resort to the weight management shakes to get rid of those pesky last pounds before hand!

They are available from your local Forever Living supplier, or you can order on-line from thefabulouslife¬† and say “Aloe” to some new products.




Aloe Fresh

Today’s review is of two slightly less glamorous products – hand & face soap and ever-shield deodorant.

The hand and face soap has a subtle fragrance and lathers well.¬† It seems quite mild and is fine as hand soap as it doesn’t dry the skin.¬† I’m not sure I’d want to use it as a face soap personally, but I have heard other people say they use this as a baby wash and a shampoo so it’s clearly a useful one to have around.¬† It would also be good as a shower gel for those (particularly men) who don’t like scented products.

I use handwash pumps in the kitchen and bathroom, but prefer those that are anti-bacterial.¬† I know that aloe vera does have some anti-fungal and anti-bacterial properties, but I’m not sure whether this product does.¬† I’ll have to do some research.

I wasn’t sure initially about the deodorant as it isn’t an anti-perspirant, which I usually prefer.¬† However I gave it a go and was impressed.¬† It is a big stick and glides on easily.¬† It has a subtle fresh fragrance, and you don’t get sudden whiffs of it during the day as you can with other roll on or stick deodorants.¬† It has very few ingredients so is pretty natural and will leave your underarms nice and soft too.¬† It also doesn’t leave white marks on your clothes – result!

Unfortunately I had to stop using it after a few days as I had a reaction to it.¬† I suspect this was due to the Triclosan;¬† I have a skin allergy to zinc and, having done some research, have discovered that Triclosan is often synthesised with zinc oxide.¬† This trial has been very educational!¬† I also looked up to see if others had experienced reactions to this product and couldn’t find any negative reviews.¬† I knew I was special…. ūüė¶

I am sad I can’t use it, as I think this is a great product – and really reasonably priced.¬† It’s ¬£6 for the stick and it lasts around 9 months.¬† Great value!

Not long left with the trial and only a couple more products left to review.¬† Shame, as I’ve been enjoying it.

Not so mad about Bridget

madabouttheboyI’ve been commuting to work by train again since the end of September, so have got back into reading, which I’m really enjoying.  Prior to that I spent two years driving to work and back, which reduced my reading opportunities.

One of my friends has been recommending books which I’ve liked, and the last time I saw her she gave me her copy of Helen Fielding’s third Bridget Jones book – Mad About The Boy.

I’ve just finished it and, while I didn’t hate it, I was fairly disappointed.  To be fair, I’d forgotten how annoying the book-form Bridget can be.  It was one of the cases where the films were definitely better than the book.  The constant need to record calories, cigarettes, alcohol units in the first books and tweets, dates, boyfriends in this one are really irritating.

This is set a while after the original diary and the follow-up The Edge of Reason, and charts Bridget’s life as a 50-something mother-of-two who’s renegotiating the dating scene.  While parts of it – particularly the on-line dating elements, and being the only single one in a group of smug couples – were funny, the rest was quite tedious and relied too heavily on stereotypes of “cougars”, “toy boys” and pushy parents.

I may have got more out of it had I been a parent (Fielding herself is now one) but I’m not and found some parts seemed to exist just as a bit of a therapy session for the author.  Some previous characters reappear, including Shazza, Jude, Tom and of course Daniel Cleaver.  Some have had some character development and there’s also a random sprinkling of new characters who are largely stereotypes (again) of well-known types.

The outcome is pretty obvious from the start but, if you love Bridget and you want an easy read (particularly if you’re lounging by the pool or the beach), you might want to give it a go.