Well, hello again. I hadn’t realised it had been quite so long. I’ve not even got a good excuse for being so neglectful. If any of you thought I’d finally met my Prince Charming and been swept off my feet in a romantic whirlwind I love you for that, but sadly not.
Two of my favourite folk, who amazingly met on Tinder about 3 years ago, got engaged at Christmas (and married last weekend, but that’s another story). I’ve started working as a sessional Registrar and officiating at weddings at weekends, and other people have also been coupling up which has brought my lack of a significant other into stark focus. I decided I ought to be a bit more proactive about this as, while I’m happy with my own company, I would far rather have someone to share life’s adventures with. At the same time I’ve been losing weight and so have a bit more self-confidence, although I am still rubbish at reading any “I’m interested signals” from the opposite sex.
I decided to dip my toes back into on-line dating in June this year after getting back from Glastonbury and the constant reminders that it would be much more fun with a plus one. A friend of mine is a social media guru and I did ask her for a recommendation of a dating site that would be less “shaggy” than others in London. Tinder, Love Struck, Plenty of Fish and My Single Friend all seem to be full of guys looking for a hook up or a bit on the side. No thanks; been there, done that.
She thought eHarmony might be a better option so I signed up for 3 months (see, no commitment issues here!) and dutifully read through the profiles they matched me with, sent smiles and comments. Nada. Zilch for the first couple of weeks. A few responses started trickling through, but were either from people in different continents (helpful) or guys wanting a hook up. Hmmm. I decided not to renew my subscription, and just before it expired a couple of chaps not too far away made contact – one in Kettering the other in Bedford. Marvellous I thought, a date may ensue. However not yet. They are both very chatty – message me on WhatsApp every day – but no suggestion of meeting. Sigh. I shall have to take the lead on this I guess, which I don’t really want to do as I have to do that all the time at work.
When I was posting before about my (lack of) dating activity, there was a guy at work who was seemingly interested (CSG). After cycles of interest and absence, then being taken for a night out at the Shard (fancy!) and then him being an arse, he left the organisation we both worked for. Probably the best outcome in reality. He has tried to contact me once since he’s been gone, but I’m not interested in his little power games any longer.
There are a couple of men in real life that I am interested in, but as usual am paralysed by overthinking the possible outcomes of everything going horribly wrong if I let them know I like them. I shall have to work on that. I’ll update you on progress!